If somebody shows you something and you tell them that it’s crap, sooner, later or immediately they will stop showing you stuff.
The only response you will elicit by focusing only on the negative is one of defense and insult. If you keep doing that to people, they will return the negativity you give them with negative emotions, anger and disappointment included, and that won’t benefit either of the parties in the interaction.
If, however, you say that I did a great job on analyzing what went wrong, and that it would have been better if …
And if you keep throwing negative crap back at me each time I show you something, or tell you about something, there will be no point for me to interact with you at all, because I want positivity in my life, and not constant negativity.
If you think that tearing an idea apart and showing all that is bad about is a remarkable thing, you are mistaken. Most people have that skill. The people who are rare are the ones who can take an idea, show all that is good about it, and make you learn from your mistakes without humiliating you.
I don’t want everyone to blow sunshine up my ass. Some things suck, and I acknowledge that, but there is something good in everything that we do, and if you can’t see that, or don’t want to see that, you will be neither happy nor liked. I truly believe that, and the most successful and happy people I know believe that, too.
